As we've all heard before, being a mother is one of the most challenging and rewarding stages in life. The fact that someone so small can have such a huge influence on everything in your life, what you do, what you say, how you can be is definitely mind-blowing. The bean has been a constant source of love, purity, stress, frustration and happiness. God, I can't even remember life all that well before her and that's a testament to how having children really brings you up another level. Sure it was easier to go out with friends and enjoy the nightlife, be alone with my man, roll out of bed and ready myself for the day etc… but it's honestly the best thing that has happened in my life. For those who have children, you understand what I mean. These little humans are so freaking cool in so many ways! Just the other day The Bean came into our bedroom and told us a story (she speaks a mix of English and Norwegian). It went like this:
The Bean: you know, when the babyen comes ut av shirten min, it'll be very hungry and then I get my pupp and the babyen drikker melk. Cause but melk er very godt for den babyen min. *Slaps her baby belly and starts laughing*
My god, my heart burst with so much love! She then proceeded to get her baby doll, Jake (she named him) and showed me how the baby gets milk! Kids are just fantastic. I really enjoy being a mother, I wouldn't change it and since becoming one I've had to make some incredibly challenging decisions.
You know, I've moved to Norway because of her and my wonderful man, because her chances of a better upbringing were so much higher than being raised in Sydney. I've even had to decide if my mother was worth being a part of our lives (even though we live on the other side of the world!), because the psychological damage she’s caused me, I cannot let happen to The Bean. I've worked hard to change my attitude and not parent my daughter the way my parents did me, because there was no way I was about to have my own baby experience what I had. Long story short, I’ve cut ties with my mother until further notice and I don’t regret it because if she isn’t capable of having a relationship with me then why should she be allowed to have one with my daughter?
Yes, being a parent can be challenging, having to make such decisions can always be risky because what if I took away something ‘special’ from The Bean? You know, it’s either saving her now a lifetime of damage or when she’s old enough to decide for herself. It’s challenging being a parent because children are always growing and each day is never the same. The Bean keeps us on our toes, some days she’s easy-going and others not so much.
I think for me the most challenging experience I’ve had so far was a few months back when The Bean refused to get dressed for school (here in Norway, there a so many pieces of clothing kids have to put on before going outside, ‘cause it’s so damn cold) and I’m not used to dressing kids like this. So we get downstairs to start putting on the wool pants, sweater, beanie (one that’s almost a balaclava), mittens, then the winter suit (kids have thermals under their regular clothes then this all goes on top, what the hell right?!). I’ve usually got something to bribe her with but it isn’t working, she throws herself on the ground in utter despair and I immediately gave up, man I was not there mentally, to begin with! I already lost the fight in my head, talk about tough huh? I started to have a breakdown in the hallway, I called my man, who called my father-in-law to help get us to school. The Bean stops, sees that I am crying and starts comforting me… My God! I didn’t do it intentionally, I was dealing with heavy mental traffic at the time and just got of my medication. Anyway, we got out the door and got to school with the help of my father-in-law and I still can’t believe that my 2.5 year old helped me get through that ordeal like a little pro, like I said kids are amazing.
The Bean has and always will be my biggest achievement in life, she has saved me from myself and she will never know how grateful I am for her. My love is immense and never-ending, hell yeah it’s tough and nobody ever said it’d be easy but each day is a chance to see your beautiful little human blossom into such a cool person!
Who here has kids? Share your stories about your little ones :)